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Define your own healthy sexuality. Even though you are trying to reduce perverted thoughts, it is also important to decide what you consider normal. Don't focus on cutting sex out of your life completely. Instead, focus on creating a healthy sexual environment for yourself, your body, and your mind. Remember that it is not possible to abstain from all thoughts and desires of a sexual nature. However, it is possible to control your behavior.

• Make a list of what you think is healthy sexuality. Focus on identifying healthy thoughts and actions, as well as identifying how you interact with others sexually and how you feel about yourself afterwards.
• Think about what makes you feel positive and what makes you negative. What is the difference between these two things?

Fight shame. Shame often comes from the belief: "I'm bad because I behave this way." If you feel like you're a pervert, chances are you're somewhat ashamed of it. And this can lead to low self-esteem. Face your shame and admit that it is not playing a positive role in your life.

• Determine when you are ashamed. After masturbating or after watching pornography? Or after thoughts of a sexual nature? Pay attention to what shame awakens. And then decide what you need to get rid of: shame or action. Analyze how you feel about the action: will you feel better if you stop doing it, or do you need to process it so that there is no shame reaction left.
• Where does shame come from? Is this a belief that has been passed down to you from your family? Is it due to deeply rooted religious beliefs? By identifying the source of shame, you can work through it.
• As you work through the shame you want to get rid of, say to yourself, “I am able to love and express my sexuality in a way that is healthy and enjoyable for me. There is no shame in expressing your sexuality."

Deal with guilt. Guilt can be a healthy emotion if its role in shaping behavior is recognized. For example, if you feel remorse for doing something, it's likely that guilt comes with it. As a result, the next time you find yourself in a similar situation, you may act differently.

• If you feel guilty about thoughts or feelings of a sexual nature, take this as a signal to pay attention to. Take some time and try to understand where guilt comes from and how you can have a healthy sex life without this feeling.
• When you feel guilty, ask yourself: is this related to the sexual act/thoughts, my sexuality, or an outside influence (such as religion or beliefs)? Is this guilt justified?
• If you don't want to experience sexual guilt, say to yourself, "I have the right to be a sexual being and express my sexuality in a healthy way without feeling guilty."
• If you have offended someone sexually, it is imperative that you deal with the situation.

Be positive about your body. If you are ashamed or ashamed of your body, learn to recognize yourself for who you are. Accept your skin color, hair texture, height and weight. When we hate our body, sometimes we begin to dwell on the figures of other people and think about them in a perverted way. Start by accepting yourself. The more you accept yourself, your body and your sexuality, the less unhealthy elements will show up in your sex life.

Let's face it, there are men to avoid. You do not need unnecessary problems, and time is precious. Why waste it on completely worthless types? So here are the three types of men to avoid: pseudo-spiritual, unpredictable, pervert.

You need to know what these types of men are in order to recognize them right away and not let them mess up your life.

A difficult character or strange behavior can, if desired, be attributed to any man, and these qualities are not always sufficient reason to advise you to avoid such men. But there are typical signs that indicate that you have a psychopath in front of you.

HE INDICATES YOU INTO THE DETAILS OF HIS LIFE IMMEDIATELY

Some men will try to get close to you by immediately letting you in on all the details of their lives. They may confess to bizarre sexual fantasies, oddities, problems, or other similar things that seem out of place at such an early stage in a relationship. When a man is too open and prematurely begins to share intimate details about himself with you, this indicates his inferiority. Establishing a close relationship with you is a difficult task for him, so he tends to be too much too honest. A man who tries to be an open book will also be inclined to share with you any thought, idea, feeling, memory - in a word, everything that comes into his little head. He can be a source of great problems, and it is very difficult to communicate with such a person. Be on your guard if a man starts sharing details of his life with you almost as soon as you meet him. You can expect any kind of trouble from him.

SADOMASOCHISM HAS BEEN PRESENT IN HIS RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN

Many men have been in sadomasochistic relationships with women. If a man is a masochist, it means that he likes it when a woman hurts him and mocks him. If a sadist, then he likes to do the same with women. When a man has experienced and enjoyed such relationships, there is no place in his soul for ordinary human love, in which there is no place for threats and insults. When a man acts as a victim (masochist), he will somehow find a way to turn you into a criminal and make you hurt him. When he acts as an offender (sadist), he will somehow find something to punish you for. In any case, a person who loves insults should be avoided. Meeting him will only lead to unnecessary pain and trouble.

HE IS OBSESSED / MANIAC

Obsessed and maniacs are often artistic, creative people who fixate on a woman or some other object and focus on them all their attention or devote their whole life to them. Typical expressions of the obsessed and maniacs: "I am a really obsessed person" or "I will never let go of anything or anyone without leaving my marks on it." It may seem strange that a person immediately reveals the dark side of his nature to you. This is a warning to stay away if you don't want him to become obsessed with you. While some of these men will try to turn you into their obsession, others with a penchant for manic and obsessive behavior can be great partners. They will seem strange and unusual, but they are not dangerous.

ALARMS GIVE YOU INTUITION

This tip is the most important of all. Women often ignore their intuition when it comes to getting a man. They seek to build relationships with often quite creepy others, knowing at the same time, that they will bring them some problems. Resist the temptation to get euphoric, even if you are excited about dating your new acquaintance who seems so romantic. If a red alarm lights up inside you, if something tells you that something is wrong with this person, show courage and strength and stay away from him. If you are smart enough to consistently apply the technology of finding a man and building a relationship with him, set out in our book, you will achieve your goal. You must not humiliate yourself or put yourself in danger by associating with an abnormal. We repeat again: if a man makes you even the slightest suspicious, avoid him. Listen to yourself and trust your instincts.

There are three types of men who should be avoided and who have the above properties in abundance. Let's look at them in more detail.

1. PSEUDOSPIRITUAL

The pseudo-spiritual type seduces women, appearing before them in the form of a pleasant, always ready to help, artistic type, with understanding and sympathy for their problems. He wears crystal amulets and grows long hair. He may pretend to be a regular drummer or like to retire into the woods to strum the guitar in peace. He pretends, even to himself, that he is not the same horny animal as other men. He is all filled with light and perfection, and there is nothing of a rough male in him. When he commits meanness towards a woman, and he cannot do without it, he does it as if unconsciously. Moreover, he never takes responsibility for people whom he offends or offends in one way or another.

He is like an emotional crying baby, only worse. He is especially dangerous because he will take your side and criticize all men as a class, as if he is not like them, or he is better than them. He can also pretend to be such a highly spiritual person that he will look down on you, because you are not able to stand “above” your negative emotions with him. He behaves as if prayer and meditation are the means of getting rid of all problems and resolving any disputes. He may even avoid conflict, hiding behind the fact that it is not "spiritual." He may also use quotations from holy books to manipulate you. Behind a smile and a thoughtful face, he hides his true nature, often quite unsightly, full of malice and prejudiced judgments.

Such people are always filled with a sense of self-satisfied superiority over others and tend to be very arrogant in judging those who are not as developed as they are. When you are arguing with a pseudo-spiritual type, do not indulge in general reasoning, speak to the point, very specifically. If he is able to descend to the sinful earth and linger on it long enough to talk about worldly things, then agree with him that you will solve the problem that led to the conflict.

2. UNPREDICTABLE

Unpredictable is a difficult problem. Its hallmarks are unreliability and inconsistency. Today you go with him on a motorcycle to nature and make love there. And the next day he disappears, and for three weeks there is not a word from him. Then he showers you with gifts, and the next moment he is angry with you for some minor offense a week ago. Although the unpredictable is capable of loving you and generally being a wonderful guy, his behavior and reactions cannot be predicted in advance. It is impossible to build any plans with him, because it costs him nothing to destroy them in an instant. If you are so naive that you hope to re-educate such a man, then we assure you that failure is inevitable. He can break your heart. Although he can be a passionate lover and time will fly by with him, constant misunderstandings due to his inconsistency will never allow you to create the relationship with him that you aspire to.

3. PERVERT

All men are interested in sex. This is fine. With a pervert, things are much worse. He gives the impression of a suspicious and even cowardly person who has something to hide. Usually he is distinguished by deceit, and often lies on trifles. In the bedroom, the pervert may hint at his desire to experiment with various bizarre sexual fantasies - but will not speak specifically. A pervert can often seem overly concerned when you discuss sex with him, even when you talk about your own sexual fantasies. Perhaps he himself has a lot of sexual fantasies that he never tells anyone about. To make matters worse, he is probably judging himself very harshly, his life is full of guilt for having such desires, and he is also afraid that you will judge him and that sooner or later he will be “brought clean”. water."

The pervert may also have an increased interest in your body and in talking about sex with you. He is drawn to touch and kiss you. A pervert can seem overly pushy when it comes to sex. When you find yourself on a date with this type, keep in mind that he only wants sex from you and nothing more. When you feel fear at the thought of intimacy with this man, then this may be a sign that you have a pervert in front of you. When a man constantly lies to you, it is quite possible that he is a pervert, and it is better to ask him directly why he is acting this way. If his answer doesn't satisfy you, get rid of him.

We have told you about men who should be avoided, because you can only expect trouble from them. It is good if you learn to recognize such types as early as possible and stay away from them. By avoiding psychopaths, you can avoid many unpleasant situations and emotional experiences.